My Last Blog and the Birth of BLK + GRN

My Last Blog and the Birth of BLK + GRN

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Farewell. This is my last blog. Seriously. I’m retiring. Not like when Jay-Z told us the Black Album was his last album in 2003 and has come out with five albums since. I’m serious. This is my last blog.

A Woman's Response to “Straight Black Men Are the White People of Black People”

A Woman's Response to “Straight Black Men Are the White People of Black People”

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Black women have not been allowed to be both Black and female. Historically, we have had to choose our race over our gender. We have not talked about our pain in order to protect our Black men's dignity. 

Shea Moisture Revealed the Fraud in Us All

Shea Moisture Revealed the Fraud in Us All

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Thanks, Shea Moisture. In light of your recent marketing snafu, I realized that like you, I was a fraud. Maybe I was even worse than Shea Moisture, because I knew I wanted to prioritize Black women and I never did.

Black Girl Happiness is Revolutionary

Black Girl Happiness is Revolutionary

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When I published, My Husband Didn’t Make Me Happy, my inbox was flooded with emails. I was surprised, by the number of comments and emails I received from people who thought that me valuing my own happiness was selfish. Weak. Greedy. Immature. Who was I, to have the audacity to expect and demand happiness?

Thoughts After the Women’s March

Thoughts After the Women’s March

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So here is how I express my feminism. I have decided to be unapologetically happy. I will love myself unconditionally. I will not be shaped, defined, or moved by the patriarch’s opinion on who I should or shouldn’t be.

Living Fearless: FOX News Segment

Living Fearless: FOX News Segment

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What makes fear particularly dangerous is that it is driven by beliefs and not by fact. Beliefs are inherently biased, flawed, and situational. Beliefs are shaped by your experiences, your culture, and your community. 

The Natural Hair Movement Failed Me

 The Natural Hair Movement Failed Me

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Although I was late to the natural hair movement, when I discovered it in 2013, I thought I had found the golden grail. All I needed to do was co-wash my tresses, use protective styles, and take some hair vitamins, and I too could have thick curly hair. All of my hair problems would be solved.

Millennial Commandment IV: Thou Shalt Have a Side Hustle

Millennial Commandment IV: Thou Shalt Have a Side Hustle

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I truly believe that you can’t be free if you are working for someone else. (And you all know how important freedom is to me.) As I have gotten older, my side hustles have helped me have more freedom with my finances, time, and travel.